Breaking the Mold

23 Feb

There’s the old metaphor of cookie cutters to describe a group of people that are all the same. It always made sense to me – the metaphor, I mean, not that all people should be the same.

I always wondered then, why shidduchim wasn’t easier, and why was there a shidduch crisis. If most people are from cookie cutter molds, why not just line the girls up in one row, boys in another, and viola, a match made in heaven! (or more like taken straight from the Queen of Sheba’s playbook) And then take the other people left and match them off to each other, they may take a little longer, but it would be a smaller pool do delve into and therefore easier to find the right match.

This conundrum bothered me tremendously, why couldn’t they just marry each other, why did things not always match up? I couldn’t understand, until two nights ago, when for the first time in my life, I used a cookie cutter.

Did you know that getting a perfect exact match from a cookie cutter mold is something best left to professionals, or people who really like to bake.

First you have to make sure the dough is evenly spread, so you don’t get some thin and some thick, then when picking up the cookie, there has to be enough flour underneath it so it doesn’t stick to the counter and get misshapen when you start tugging at it. And then when you try to remove the dough in between each cut out, make sure you do it neatly, and don’t take off some poor cookie’s tip, or accidently brush up against a cookie leaving a dent. Never mind that you have to have a good dough in the first place, so it doesn’t bubble get yuchy, and actually works well being rolled out and cut out, like chocolate chip cookie doughs don’t fare so well with the molds. And then when you’re transferring the cookie onto the sheet, make sure handle delicately so as not to leave and marks. Space it evenly so they don’t over crowd and get up on top of each other, they need their own space, and then make sure to bake them properly. Not too long, or they’ll be burned to a crisp, take care that cookies of the same thickness go together so they’ll bake evenly, or you’ll get some crispy some raw…and on and on this metaphor goes…make each stage apply to whatever variances in personality and child rearing there is…

And that’s why even a cookie cutter doesn’t guarantee drones, there are just way too many variables to account for in between.

Btw, despite all the issues I faced baking my linzer tarts, for a first attempt they came out pretty decent. Let’s hope I can say more for my first child.


Posted by on February 23, 2011 in Jewish, Parenting, Shidduchim


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3 responses to “Breaking the Mold

  1. Cuz Chay

    February 23, 2011 at 11:52 pm

    I just spent an hour reading through your blog and thoroughly enjoying it. Then I signed up for email notifications and was pleased to have something smart and spunky to look forward to every once in a while. Then I started feeling like a stalker. It’s creepy to read your cousin’s stuff when you don’t even talk on the phone, no? So I’m outing myself to you. I love your writing. And it’s nice to get a glimpse into your life. I knew there was a reason I liked you. So there.

    • TooYoungToTeach

      March 13, 2011 at 3:26 am

      I was never sure how to respond to compliments I really likes, thanks doesn’t suffice, I’m also too busy blushing. I really do appreciate you commenting (I invite you to do it again, I love comments, but people don’t seem to grace me with them too often)…it’s always great to get real life validation and approval for something you do from people you know (not just another screenname on the Internet)

  2. Princess Lea

    February 24, 2011 at 1:42 pm

    I’m not sure if it was the Queen of Sheba who threw her maids and servants together into impromptu marriages. I think it took place much later . . . I tried googling it, but no joy.


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