I have subscribed to Plinky to help with my Writer’s Block of sort…it asks a question, I answer it, and then it gets sent to my blog if I choose….so this was the first question….what’s your answer?
Don’t have expectations and you won’t be disappointed.
My mother says this all the time, and I’ve passed along this pearl of wisdom to my husband who claims it has changed his life.
That is not to say that one should be a pessimist, or expect the worst in every situation, but on a practical level in relationships…if I don’t expect a present, then I won’t be upset if there is none, but pleasantly surprised if there is…I don’t expect you to do a favor for me, so if you don’t, our relationship remains status quo, and if you do, all the better.
So often we have expectations of the people around us, that they should always be there for us, do for us, etc, and very often these expectations are a bit grandiose and quite a lot to ask of other people, especially when you realize people have the same expectations as you in terms of you doing for them….so lose the expectations, the perfection, the “it’s all coming to me” attitude, and realize the world owes you nothing… you’ll be a lot better off for it.