"The evil that men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones…" -Mark Anthony – Julius Ceasar
Well, I suppose the quotation depends on how evil you were. I mean no ones saying anything nice about Hitler. But I think for the average folk the opposite is true – once someone dies, people only remember, or at least only talk about their good qualities, not what a pain in the rear, yenta, or manipulative son of a ______ s/he was.
So what nice things will they say about me?
What nice things do I want them to say about me?
I'm not quite sure, but I'm sure that I don't want them to use the word "nice" on me….because I always said, nice = boring.
It's not a matter of being modest that I'm not saying what people will be saying, I'll toot my horn, not a problem, I just don't know which horn to toot. I know what qualities and attributes I have, but I don't think that many of them are things people who aren't very close to you fully recognize, or even if they do, something to consider saying at a funeral…
"Oh Leah, it's sad she was was such an anaylitcal, and objective person."
"I know, Sarah, people these days just don't have those qualities; she will be sorely missed."
They'll probably say it was a nice funeral, for nice person. Yay.