It’s old news, but I’m going with it anyway.
Y’know Dovid Gabay sings that song “Daven For Me”,( partial lyrics of the chorus are as follows)
“Daven for me and I’ll daven for you, Oh, how I know your pain, I feel it too… Let’s storm the gates of Heaven we will break through, “ וחבר בעד המתפלל כל” yes it’s true, so Daven for me and I’ll daven for you..”.
From this song an organization called “Daven For Me” was started. The basic premise is, match people up with the same issue (shidduchim, infertility, nachas fun der kind, and parnossah) and have them daven for each other, satisfy the terms of the Chazal, and receive salvation.
( For those of you not familiar with the song, or Chazal, basically it says, anyone who prays on their friends behalf, and they need the same thing, they will receive salvation before their friend they were praying for)
Anywho, I think the whole thing is a little manipulative.
The whole psyche behind the Chazal is not “Here’s a cheat sheet to get what you want” but rather an insight into the reward of selflessness and concern for others.
If a person sincerely is concerned about the welfare of their friend, and they care to pray on their behalf, that’s beautiful. If in addition that person has the same need, but still sincerely cares and feels the pain and suffering of their friend and truly prays for them selflessly, their selflessness is repaid in that they will receive salvation for that need before their friend.
Like I said, the song and the organization are a little manipulative. By purposely orchestrating people to pray for each other it defeats the entire foundation. While it may comply with the terms, it really doesn’t satisfy the spirit, or point. In fact it takes the selflessness and turns it into complete personal motivation.
So, what do you say, is the song and organization legit, and I’m trying too hard? Or is it all really a farce and a bit of a travesty?