Something Different wrote a great post about shidduchim titled “The Big But”. I recommend you all check out…I just want to add a little post-script to the post.
When people have “apparent” strikes against them in the realm of shidduchim, be it,
Physical Health issues
Mental Heath issues
Sibling off the derech
S/he was quasi off, but straightened him/herself out
The skies the limit with “strikes”.
Everyone always gives the same chizuk,
-I t’s your nisayon
– It only takes one
– Your “strike” will be the answer
These may be the answers…and if you think about it, it makes sense. And five years down the road, it’ll all be resolved and water under the bridge for most people…but it’s very hard living your life, keeping it in mind, because reality interrupts and emotions rule logic. At least in Shidduchim it does.