When it comes to kiddashim in shuls, sheva brachos, vorts, most simchas, the women get the best stuff.
The women get the Zeigleman cakes, Daskal’s cheese stuff, Portegal’s miniatures, chocolates by Edible Delights, the monogrammed cookies, the flower centerpieces. The everything.
While the men get the booze and sponge cake.
I’m ok with this arrangement, just as long I get my Viennese Crunch.
I’m just confused by the vort arrangements in terms of where the women are situated. Based on the fact that the effort is given to show off to women, one would assume that you would put woman in a place that best displays your goodies. But it’s not so, we’re shtupt into undersized 2 x 4’s.
If a vort is in a house, the woman always are relegated to the side door and kitchen. If it’s in a hall, the woman’s entrance is on the side down some dark alley. We breathe our sugar laden breathe in each other’s face (this is a good reason to be tall). We squeeze by, and reappropriate some hefty woman’s padding. We jab elbow, and exchange dark looks. (you call this a simcha, it brings out the worst in us!)
I’m sure someone with throw the tznius argument at me, but is it tznius what they’re doing inside. (things actually looking nice, such gashmeis, it’s scandalous)
I don’t care if you think as a woman I’m a second-class citizen and am therefore deserving of the puny allotments you make for me. But as a society, be consistent, if I’m so insignificant, why show off to me, why shower me with all the good noshies, and artistic displays (unless you’re trying to lull us into a false sense of security, which is another story)?