I was talking to someone about my friend who was in play with me. The conversation went like this
Me: You should have seen X !It was hysterical, a modern Carol Burnet!
Other Person: Who’s Carol Burnet?
Me: Y’know, Miss Hannigan from Annie. She had this whole persona thing, very funny.
Other Person: Well I don’t think X is good. I never liked her.
Me: What? Why?
Other Person: She was always annoying. A little whiny.
Me: When was the last time you saw her?
Other Person: Dunno, five years
Me: Ye, she was 15.
What was the purpose in her telling me she didn’t like her, or that she’s a bad actress? She hasn’t seen the person in years, yet she felt the need to interject her “true and honest” opinion of her!
Most of the time it is really better to just keep your comments to yourself. You know what you think, be secure in it. The entire world doesn’t need to hear and agree with you. You’re not that important that your opinions need to be heard, or are making any difference to the world at large.
If I solicit your opinion like,
“What do you think of X as an actress”
“How do I look today?”
While it may not be worth it to be honest, you do have carte blanche to say what you want.
Yes, have your opinions, state your piece, be heard, but when you’re just being “honest”, SHUT UP.