Cana someone tell me what the wait time is before I can start believing people when they compliment me?
It’s one of the woes of getting married.
“Didn’t they teach you to cover your hair in Kallah Classes?”
“It looks like it’s growing out of your head!”
“It looks just like your hair, amazing!”
Look, I love my shaitel (as much as you can love an itchy net with someone else’s hair [Thank You Olga, Yetta, and maybe even Sven] sewn into it). I look amazing, but it’s not that good, and any Jewish person with a discerning (or not even so) eye will notice how it doesn’t bristle in the wind, how humidity will not frizz it, and when I run my fingers through it, it goes perfectly back into place. They may also notice the tell tale line at the forehead (go with bangs my friends, most natural!)
And then there’s everyone going on how amazing I look.
“You lost weight!”
“I can feel your ribs through that hug”
“Such cheekbones!”
“Oiy so Cheenush” (gotta get the right accent on that line)
Gimme a break, I gained weight, like most people do after their wedding. Nothing significant, 2-3 pounds, but it shows up in my face first, so it’s like “Hello, fat”.
I’m just not used to eating such complete meals a day. Lunch is a whole sit-down affair with with fruit and salad and bagels and cookies for dessert. I’m used to eating cereal and milk for breakfast, lunch and dinner .
OF COURSE I GAINED WEIGHT and you denying the fact, and actually proclaiming the opposite makes me feel even fatter, and like a baby, “Awww you’re so cute, such pulkes”, except when you’re a newlywed it’s “Awww, you’re such a cute couple, look how they look at each other, you look amazing, you’re shaitel…..”
So, I’m on a diet.
And hiding away in my snood (one of my shaitels is right where it belongs, back at the shaitel macher, yay)
Compliment me if you dare…and if you do, you know how I’ll respond.
“Oh, thank you so much…really, you think so?…I dunno, I’m not used to it yet…Thanks, I’ve been feeling so fat, it’s good to hear someone think otherwise…”
I’m so good at smiling and nodding it’s terrible; I guess I’m just lying right back at ‘em
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The joys of the word “chinosh” are that it can’t be used falsely. There are so many requirements to permit application of that term that it must be true when said.
Yet I can understand. Any time I’m complimented I feel as though the other person is either a) lying through their teeth or b) want something from me.
And I myself get uncomfortable with comments as the last time someone said my skin looked great, it turned into a perpetual breakout.
cheenush, chinosh, translation?
Yeah, don’t like compliments either. Either lying to be nice or lying to butter you up because they need “a favor”.
Oh my G-d, Cheenush! I was always wondering what that meant! I saw it on a ZSRF DVD in one of Leah Forster’s comedy shows and I totally thought she made that word up. I didn’t realize it’s part of the Brooklyn dictionary.
“Chinosh,” a Hungarian word. The Hungarians and their love of aesthetics created a term that’s a little hard to explain.
Example: one is clothing shopping, and dons a shoe or skirt that magically makes the foot or thighs look smaller. Therefore, one looks chinosh as a result of this attire.
If one’s figure looks fabulous in a dress, then one can be complimented on looking so chinosh.
The term for handsome or pretty is “seip.” That’s something else entirely.
bla, just say it makes you look phat
Moshe, you don’t get it, there is a certain pitch in the voice and accent that chinosh comes with that phat does can’t measure up.
Chinosh said properly is the ULTIMATE
Then you’d have to post an audio clip to make me believe it.
Since I started to take compliment-like things people tell me with a bit of salt I actually made myself paranoid because now I never know if I can believe people or they just say that to give me some attention or so. So I wish you just always take compliments as they are without a back-thought about what they really mean behind these words and I wish you to get truthful compliments for a very very long time!
On the funny note: our shul’s rabbi’s wife’s BD was few days ago. They have four kids and the bchor will be bar-mitzvah in a little bit more than a year from now. Now imagine that when she comes to a grocery to buy cigarettes for her husband they would ask her ID. Yes, she shared that just few days ago and it’s not a joke!
So take compliments seriously – they never harm.
PS. I tagged you in the meme